Active Listening Behaviors
Active Listening Behaviors means showing with your body and your face that you are listening.
When we listen well, we can learn, follow directions, and be kind to others. Active listening helps in the classroom, at home, and with friends.
Good listeners do more than stay quiet. Good listeners look, stay calm, and wait their turn.
Let’s learn the three big active listening behaviors:
- Eye contact — looking at the speaker
- Still body — keeping your body calm and ready to listen
- No interrupting — waiting until the speaker is done
1. Eye Contact
Eye contact means your eyes are looking at the person who is talking. This shows, “I am listening to you.”
You do not need to stare. You just keep your eyes on the speaker most of the time.
When your teacher is giving directions, your eyes can look at the teacher. When a classmate is sharing, your eyes can look at your classmate.
- Eyes on the speaker
- Face turned toward the speaker
- Looking ready to listen
2. Still Body
A still body helps your brain listen. A still body is calm, quiet, and ready.
This does not mean your body must be perfect. It means you try to keep your hands, feet, and whole body from distracting yourself or others.
- Hands quiet
- Feet calm
- Body facing the speaker
- Mouth quiet while the other person talks
3. No Interrupting
Interrupting means talking while someone else is still talking. Active listeners wait.
If you have something to say, you can hold your thought in your mind. Then you speak when it is your turn.
Waiting your turn is respectful. It shows kindness and helps everyone hear the full message.
- Let the speaker finish
- Do not talk over someone
- Raise your hand if needed
- Speak when it is your turn
Why Active Listening Matters
Active listening helps you understand what people say. It helps you learn directions, stories, and ideas.
It also helps people feel important. When you listen, you show that their words matter.
What Active Listening Can Look Like
- Looking at the teacher during directions
- Sitting or standing calmly
- Keeping your mouth quiet
- Nodding your head
- Waiting until the speaker is done
What Active Listening Does Not Look Like
- Looking around the room
- Playing with objects
- Talking when someone else is talking
- Turning your body away from the speaker
- Making sounds that distract others
Worked Example 1: Listening to the Teacher
The teacher says, “Please put your book away and come to the rug.”
A student looks at the teacher, keeps a still body, and stays quiet until the teacher is done.
Is this active listening? Yes.
Why?
- The student used eye contact.
- The student kept a still body.
- The student did not interrupt.
Worked Example 2: Listening to a Classmate
Mia is sharing about her pet. Ben looks at Mia, but he keeps tapping his pencil and starts talking before Mia finishes.
Is this active listening? No.
Why not?
- Ben looked at the speaker, and that was good.
- But his body was not still.
- He interrupted before Mia was done.
How can Ben fix it?
- Put the pencil down.
- Keep his body calm.
- Wait until Mia finishes speaking.
Worked Example 3: Choosing the Best Listener
Who is showing active listening?
- Ana looks at the speaker, keeps her hands quiet, and waits her turn.
- Jay looks out the window and hums.
- Leo shouts, “I know! I know!” while the teacher is talking.
Best answer: Ana.
Why? Ana is doing all three active listening behaviors: eye contact, still body, and no interrupting.
Worked Example 4: Fix the Behavior
Sara’s friend is talking. Sara turns her body away and whispers to another student.
What should Sara do to become an active listener?
- Turn her body toward her friend.
- Look at her friend.
- Stop whispering.
- Wait quietly until her friend is done.
Tips to Help You Remember
You can think: Eyes, Body, Wait.
- Eyes — look at the speaker
- Body — keep your body still
- Wait — do not interrupt
Before someone speaks, you can ask yourself:
- Are my eyes looking?
- Is my body calm?
- Am I waiting for my turn?
Let’s Practice
If your teacher is talking and you want to tell a story, what should you do?
You should keep your eyes on the teacher, keep your body still, and wait until it is your turn to speak.
If a friend is sharing and you are playing with your shoelace, are you showing a still body?
No. A still body means your hands and body stay calm so you can listen.
If you look at the speaker and stay quiet, are you showing active listening?
Yes, if you also keep your body calm and do not interrupt.
Summary
Active listening behaviors help you show that you are paying attention.
Remember the three big ideas: look at the speaker, keep a still body, and do not interrupt.
When you use active listening, you learn better and show respect to others.
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